Reality Isn’t What You Think It Is (But It’s Much Better)
(QGR × Jung × Self-Determination Theory, explained for real, everyday humans)
There’s something happening in the collective right now — a soft awakening, a shift in how we understand reality, ourselves, our past, and what’s possible for our future.
Today, I want to talk to you about that.
Do you sometimes get the sense that maybe reality isn’t fixed, predetermined, or running in a straight line – but more like a living interplay between consciousness and information?
That sense is not random.
In this Sacred Broadcast, we’re going to bring that into sharp focus. We’ll draw together:
Phenomenology
Jungian Individuation
Self-Determination Theory (SDT)
…into one coherent framework you can actually use in your life.
And we’ll use clear, grounded examples so you can see how these ideas apply to your relationships, money, choices, and future.
Let’s begin.
Part One: Reality Is Not a Brick Wall — It’s Wet Clay
In QGR’s language, the universe at its foundation is made of information.
Reality is not fixed.
It’s interpretive, relational, and responsive.
In human language, that means:
Meaning drives experience.
Experience drives behaviour.
Behaviour shapes reality.
You think you’re walking through a solid world, but you’re actually walking through a world that’s partly made of your interpretations.
Example: Two people lose a job.
Person A: “I’m a failure.”
Person B: “I’m being redirected.”
Same event. Two different meanings. Two different futures.
Reality responds less to the event, and more to the meaning we attach to it.
Phenomenology says the same from a human perspective:
You don’t experience reality as it “is”.
You experience reality as it becomes meaningful to you.
Your mind receives the world and instantly interprets it. That interpretation is your experience.
In other words:
Reality = interpretation + interaction.
Meaning, therefore, is the architect of possibility, and this is the backbone of everything that follows.
The meaning you ascribe to the events in your life does not rewrite the events themselves – it rewrites the pattern that flows forward from them.
Your past becomes a resource rather than a wound, and your future becomes expanded rather than constrained.
Which leads us nicely into the next, slightly “far out” concept.
Part Two: Your Past Isn’t Finished & Your Future Isn’t Waiting
This is one of the most profound and useful ideas from modern consciousness work.
QGR frames it like this:
The past, present, and future all exist as informational states.
Your present experience is where these states interfere and become conscious.
Jung said it differently:
Your future Self is pulling you forward as surely as your past is pushing you.
And phenomenology agrees:
What you expect shapes what you perceive.
What you perceive shapes how you act.
How you act shapes what becomes real.
This creates an endless feedback loop:
meaning → behaviour → reality → meaning
Real-life example
Imagine you decide:
“I’m going to be someone who earns well, feels at ease with money, and expects good opportunities.”
What happens?
You stop avoiding your finances.
You speak differently.
You take more aligned risks.
You notice openings you once overlooked.
You interpret challenges as temporary rather than fatal.
Your future identity has altered your present behaviour, which reshapes your future outcomes.
Part Three: Your Identity Is the Steering Wheel
If you absorb nothing else, absorb this:
Your life rises or falls to the level of your identity.
Self-Determination Theory tells us we need three things to thrive:
Autonomy – “I choose.”
Competence – “I can.”
Relatedness – “I matter.”
When these are strong, people create miraculous shifts.
When they’re weak, people shrink into survival mode.
Your level of thriving predicts your trajectory.
Your identity, therefore, is not a “vibe”, it’s a cognitive compass – and who you believe yourself to be determines:
what you attempt
what you tolerate
what you walk away from
how resilient you are
whether you take the invitation life is offering
Change your identity, and reality almost has no choice but to reorganise itself around you.
Real-life example
Someone who feels powerless with money tends to:
delay decisions
avoid change
accept less than they deserve
complain and voice it loudly to anyone who’ll listen, everytime they’re ripped off, have an expense or gawp at someone else’s indulgences (according to their judgement of them)
Someone who feels capable and sovereign tends to:
negotiate
seek opportunities
reject scarcity-based thinking and scarcity-based conversations
take intelligent action - inside and out
Your sense of agency is one of the strongest predictors of your future.
Jung’s Individuation Model — Becoming Who You Truly Are
Jung believed every person carries an inner blueprint — a potential Self — that wants to emerge.
This blueprint sends:
intuitions
nudges
synchronicities
dreams
moments of clarity
feelings of “this isn’t me anymore”
Individuation is the lifelong process of becoming the Self you were always capable of being, which lines up beautifully with the QGR model of self-actualisation.
Real-life example
You leave a relationship and feel, “I can’t go back to the person I was before.”
That sensation of no longer fitting into your old self is individuation in motion. It means your identity has stretched and a new timeline has opened. Your future has shifted. It’s as if you drew a line in the sand that you can’t cross back over.
It’s a bit like riding the slipstream of a new current that’s “transurfing” you into another dimension. You didn’t know you were building a new door to walk through, but by reinterpreting your past with consciousness, and listening to and acting upon intuitive nudges from the future, you alter the geometry of the present, making your life path cleaner, clearer and more aligned than it was only moments ago. So golden 🙂
Part Four: Let’s Talk Deeper About Your Past (the Rewritable Version)
Most people think the past is done.
It isn’t.
Not in your nervous system. Not in your meaning-making. Not in the informational architecture of your mind.
When you reinterpret a past experience, you don’t change the event — you change the pattern that flows out of it.
This is neurobiology, psychology, and QGR all holding hands.
Example
Old meaning:
“I attract terrible partners.”
New meaning:
“That relationship revealed my worth by showing me what I will never accept again.”
You didn’t rewrite history or your lived experience; you rewrote your relationship with that history.
When you do this, the future listens. It can’t help but conform to the new identity you now inhabit. Anything else would feel like an illusion – an incongruence to your inner being – and the universe just doesn’t work that way.
Science is catching up to this.
And honestly, ask anyone who’s done any genuine observation of their own life, any self-reflection, any personal development, and you’ll find true-life examples of everything above.
I myself have done this many, many times – altered my identity in a way that feels more like me – and watched my reality reorganise itself around me in such incredible ways that it’s almost unreal.
Part Five: Your Future Self Is Not Imaginary (Just More Organised)
We all have a version of ourselves we’re growing toward.
Reflect, just for a moment… you’ve felt this person before:
in the moment you made a decision and felt something inside say, “Yes. This.”
in the sudden knowing that doesn’t come from logic
in the gut instinct that feels like it’s coming from outside you and inside you at the same time
That, my friends, is future-you.
Not a hallucination, but a cognitive and emotional model of your highest coherence.
Think of this person like your human software update — they exist, you just haven’t downloaded this version fully yet.
And here’s the kicker:
Future-you sees your life from a different altitude. They know where you’re heading – aligned or not – and their job is to send you signals. Your job is to sit up and listen.
Part Six: The Present Moment: The Interference Pattern (Don’t Panic!)
Fear, doubt, scarcity spirals…
They’re not signs that your life is falling apart – even though it feels like that sometimes. Sensing a loss of control over elements of our lives that were once “in order” can feel destabilising, distressing, even downright petrifying.
The bit I want you to internalise here is this:
If you’re doing the work of living a life by design, rather than one of default, then these incidents are simply old patterns running a “software update request.”
Interference doesn’t mean failure. It means:
This is the boundary between who you were and who you’re becoming.
When you feel contraction:
pause
breathe
say, “This is old resonance, it has no authority now,” or, “This is just the interference pattern; my reality is catching up to my new identity.”
return to feeling into the identity you’re choosing to be right now
This is how timeline shifts actually feel. It’s not magical, woo-woo, or “unrealistic”.
It’s subtle and powerful.
Quantum leaps are usually built from a hundred little shifts like this. I’ve lived it. This stuff is no joke.
The present, therefore, is not your “fate”, hard-etched into stone. It’s the meeting point of:
your memories (past resonance)
your expectations (future resonance)
your meaning-making (current interpretation – and our brains are the best meaning-making machines!)
When you change the meaning you give to the past, and the identity you project into the future, the present reorganises.
This is where personal transformation actually happens.
Real-life example
You are worried about money. Bills are coming. Your portfolio dipped. Ouch.
Fear rises in the belly and you start projecting out all these scenarios about how hard life is going to be in the coming weeks or months.
The reframe is: it’s just old resonance – echoes from who you were, not who you are becoming.
Old resonance says:
“Danger zone!”
But if you pause, reinterpret, and say:
“Ah, this is just an old pattern. I don’t need to feed it,”
…your nervous system calms.
You think more clearly. You notice more solutions. Maybe you take one or even several aligned actions that improve things immediately.
What changed?
Not the bills — but your access to your own intelligence.
That is how timeline shifts look in practice: you effortlessly slip back into alignment with the identity of who you’re becoming.
Part Seven: So How Do You Use All This?
Let’s make this practical.
1. Choose a new identity before life gives you proof.
Say:
“I’m an excellent money manager.”
“I’m someone who has high-quality relationships.”
“I’m someone whose life gets better and better.”
Identity comes first. Evidence follows.
Happiness is an inside job – we don’t change the outside and then feel happy; we generate feelings of happiness inside, and our life reorganises itself to match that state.
2. Reinterpret your past with generosity.
Not to erase pain (because pain can be helpful), but to reassign power.
And if you have to reimagine and rewrite a painful memory to make it easier to assign new meaning to the past so that it better serves your future, do it.
It’s your life – only you get to feel how it feels to be you.
Remember: you are not merely your body, your mind, or your experiences. You are so much greater than all of them.
You are here to experience, yes – but there are no rules about what meaning you assign to your experiences, nor how you choose to “relive” them or learn from them.
I once created a new memory and laid it over the “real” memory (bearing in mind, I did this as an adult and my memory was of an incident that occurred when I was about five, so my original memory probably wasn’t the whole truth anyway).
Even though I can “remember” both versions, the new memory and meaning I attached to that incident empowered me so much it literally changed the way I function in certain situations.
I rewired my brain by creating a new dendrite, and then repeatedly reinforcing that memory until it was just as strong and “realistic” as the original.
Who cares what really happened? It was forever ago and clinging to “reality” wasn’t serving me in any useful way.
The moment I changed it – poof! Upgrade.
3. Listen to your future self.
Ask future-you:
“What would you have me do tomorrow?”
“What choice would wealthy / loving / confident / adventurous me make right now?”
Then wait for the nudge.
It might come as a gut feeling, a voice in your head, a sudden sense to do something (or stop doing something), or simply the pull to do the opposite of what you usually do.
Keep in mind: tomorrow is not fixed, and every now-moment is influencing the next, and the next, and the next.
So: choose with power, wisdom, and consciousness. And allow space to open up for the universe to fill in without your constant efforting or volatility.
Watch what happens.
4. Notice opportunities.
Your brain sees what your identity permits.
Upgrade identity, and opportunity becomes visible.
5. Don’t fight fear — outgrow it.
Fear is a story from an older version of you. You’ve got to grow bigger than your problems.
If you outgrow your fear, you’ll experience more, and your circle of security grows. Then you’ll be able to face bigger challenges and bigger changes, which in turn lead to bigger and better experiences.
And before you know it, you’re living a life you had no idea you would ever get to live — and probably wouldn’t have, if you’d stayed small and let your problems overwhelm you.
The Final Truth
Your life is not made of events — it is made of meanings.
And meanings can be rewritten.
Reality is flexible, interpretive, and operates in an endless feedback loop of conscious co-creation.
Best go grab a fresh cuppa.
I have a feeling you’ve got a great day ahead tomorrow. 🫖✨
